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Going through my little funk I realized that I need to start loving myself more. I think everyone should start loving themselves more and that is why I want to start writing about self-love on Sundays.
We all have baggage and it is hard to know what is in your own baggage until you take a look. Today, I want to talk about letting go, forgiving and moving on.
In order for you to start loving yourself you need to let go of the past and move on. You need to forgive yourself and others for hurting you. Forgiveness is the most powerful tool that you can have to start loving yourself fully.
Louise Hays said it best
Forgiving someone doesn’t mean that we condone their behavior. The act of forgiveness takes place in our own mind. It really has nothing to do with the other person. The reality of true forgiveness lies in setting ourselves free from holding on to the pain. It’s simply an act of releasing ourselves from the negative energy.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean allowing the painful behaviors or actions of another to continue in your life. Sometimes, forgiveness means letting go. You forgive them and release them. Taking a stand and setting healthy boundaries are often the most loving things you can do—not only for yourself, but for the other person as well.
I know for me, letting go, forgiving and moving on is really hard. I have ruined a lot of relationships because I bring my past into my present. Letting go should not be something negative, but something positive. Here is a poem that Louise Hays wrote.
Letting Go by Louise Hays
To "let go" does not mean to stop caring,
it means I can’t do it for someone else.
To "let go" is not to cut myself off,
it’s the realization I can’t control another.
To "let go" is not to enable, but to allow
learning from natural consequences.
To "let go" is to admit powerlessness,
which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To "let go" is not to try to change or blame another,
it is to make the most of myself.
To "let go" is not to care for, but to care about.
To "let go" is not to fix, but to be supportive.
To "let go" is not to judge, but to allow another to be a
To "let go" is not to be in the middle arranging all the
but to allow others to affect their own destinies.
To "let go" is not to be protective, it is to permit another
to face reality.
To "let go" is not to deny, but to accept.
To "let go" is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead
to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To "let go" is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
To "let go" is not to regret the past, but to grow and live
for the future.
To "let go" is to fear less and love more.
I am still dealing with this funk that I am in, but I can tell you that every day gets a little better because I have started to let go, forgive and move on.
One thing that I have let go of, forgave and moved on was my heartache. I have forgiven myself for how I treated and acted toward P (wont blog his name.) I have let go, forgiven and moved on from the way he has treated me in return.
One way that I was able to let go of him and the relationship that was never really there was by writing a letter that I never gave him. Here is the letter that I wrote him.
Please know that I never sent this letter to him and I am sharing it for the first time here. I want to share it because for me it is a way of fully letting go.
I let myself go through this for far to long and by writing that letter I let go and moved on. I forgave myself and him.
I am ready to start loving myself today!